My friend, Matt, gave a really practical talk last Sunday at The Journey on the topic of decision-making. My LifeTeam had a very honest and in-depth talk about our own stupid mistakes and why we made those mistakes. And in the process of that discussion, something began to work its way around in my head.
Matt’s point last week was this: the object of your trust will determine the outcome of your journey. Too many times, we put our trust in the wrong thing. We listen to our emotions in the moment, and we make decisions based on those emotions. Should I buy this? Should I marry him? Should we move? Should I take that new job? And we make some really stupid mistakes because we trust what we’re feeling.
But, then I thought: what about all the times that I followed my emotions to do good things? I went to Nicaragua last May, left my wife and kids for a week, took personal days from work, went traveling with the threat of the early beginnings of the swine flu epidemic, and gave money to support those kids. And that all started with an emotion — a sadness for the way those kids were living. When I was there, I experienced several emotions — mostly hope, encouragement, and joy at what our church was able to do for these kids. What would have happened if I hadn’t listened to those emotions?
And then, it hit me. There’s big difference in these two situations. Our emotions can be positive or negative — but making decisions based on emotions alone, no matter what the intent, is a bad idea. If I had gone to Nicaragua on JUST emotions, I would not have seen the hope those kids had despite some rough situations. Instead, I would have been paralyzed by it. If I had just given my money based on emotion, I would have stopped giving — but, the fact is, I still want to keep giving though the emotion has worn off.
Emotions are VERY important to our decision-making process. The problem is when we separate our emotions from our passions, we can really mess things up. So many of our stupid mistakes look at emotion alone — and the passions we value get forgotten. But, most of the great experiences we have in our memory are times when we took the emotions we were feeling, and channeled our decisions to fuel our passions. Passions are commitments to see something become better, to add value. Passions do not change. Passions give us our greatest joys. And, yes, passions are emotional. But they are more than mere emotion.
Don’t confuse your emotion for passion. But, let your emotions help you find the things that you are most passionate about, and don’t let anything — including your own emotions — pull you away from those passions.




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